When we think about sexuality, we usually think about the body — touch, stimulation, skin, genitals. But the truth is, the most influential part of our sexual arousal is actually a few centimeters above — in the brain. The brain is the command center of desire. It starts the process, imagines, fantasizes, builds anticipation, interprets sensations, and heightens excitement. It turns us on, even when there is no physical touch. Therefore, to improve sexual life and deepen the sexual connection, it’s important to know how to arouse the brain — not just the body.

So how do you do this? Here are some practical tips:

Make Room for Fantasy
Fantasy has no boundaries, and that’s exactly why it’s so powerful. When we allow ourselves to drift in imagination, we activate areas of the brain that arouse desire and excitement. Don’t be afraid to think about a scene from a movie, a pleasant sexual memory, or even create completely new scripts. You can also share your fantasies with your partner (if you feel comfortable), and incorporate them into foreplay.

Use Words
Words are a surprising sexual tool. A stimulating conversation, whispering in the ear, or a playful message in the middle of the day — all of these can ignite the imagination and arouse the senses long before you get to bed. Sensual language doesn’t have to be vulgar; it can be soft, gentle, and seductive.

Build Mental Tension
The most exciting part of sex isn’t always the act itself but what happens before it. Anticipation, curiosity, and the unknown all amplify desire. You can create mental tension through prolonged flirting, small but unfulfilled touches, or even planning a future sexual encounter together. The more the brain anticipates, the more the body responds.